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Dundee (Scotland), United Kingdom
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I'm here to meet girls 18 to 36 years old for dating and serious relationship.
About me
The photos are not great, I know, and yes they're all jeans and t-shirts. But they're not improved in any way, no filters, no Photoshop. The dates and locations were, in the order displayed: 2021/England (main), 2010/Vietnam, 2012/Australia, 2022/Turkey, 2022/England, 2018/Vietnam, 2016/England, 2011/Australia, 2017/Cambodia, 2022/Turkey x 3. The older ones are partly so you can see how I'm ageing, ha ha.
I was born in England, lived in Australia for about 20 years, and intermittently lived and worked in E and SE Asia for about 11 years. Currently I'm in the UK but will leave in early 2026. I don't know where I'll go or what I'll do next, but I could visit almost anywhere in the world or live long term in some countries. Ideally in the future I'd like to return to Australia with Ms Right, but that may not be possible depending on circumstances, so I'm flexible.
In the past I studied engineering, electronics and computing and mostly worked as a consultant systems / software designer / developer, also a little as an English teacher.
At my age and with the work I used to do, I should be retired and quite affluent. But many things went wrong in the past and too many people let me down, various things. That was disastrous for me, so I have much less now than I reasonably expected. Even so, I don't need to work any more, though I may do something in the future.
I'm very honest, loyal, kind, open, considerate, polite, friendly, caring, altruistic, deep thinking, borderline intellectual.
I much prefer nature and quiet to cities and noise, drink little alcohol and usually only socially, really hate smoking, vaping, "recreational" drugs, and have zero interest in gambling.
I try to see things as they really are, not as I want them to be, which sometimes gives me an unusual outlook on life.
I can listen as well as talk. If I'm wrong about something I'll change my mind, even if it's difficult. But I'll need a good reason, otherwise my views are worthless.
I do not believe anything superstitious or spiritual or mystical, including religion. To me it's quite easy to prove that none of those things can be true, and that belief in them by anybody is harmful to us all, so I have very little tolerance for them.
Over time I've had many interests, but right now not so many. However I read a lot, have exercised regularly for decades to try to stay slim and fit, used to be involved in many outdoor activities, and used to like deep / philosophical discussions - but I think I found most of the answers in my twenties, hah. I've lived and worked in several countries, have travelled quite a lot and will be travelling again soon.
I've never married and have no children. That was not the plan and I definitely should not be alone and still single at my age. But that was mostly not my fault, at least I don't think so. Hopefully it's not too late to meet the lady I always thought I could find quite easily... but somehow haven't!
About you
Someone completely honest, ethical, loyal, kind, gentle, smart / educated / rational enough to really talk to and share everything with, not religious or superstitious, with some common interests and without conflicting interests.
Ideally never married (like myself), but divorced or widowed may be OK, and without children.
Despite my age I'd still like the chance to try for children, and that forces me to look for someone much younger than me, otherwise I wouldn't care much about age. But biology gives me little flexibility.
For other things, I have to be realistic about what's suitable for me, what I want, my own age, and my current circumstances.
Please don't be offended by any of this, it doesn't mean I have a negative view of anyone different.
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5'8" (172cm) and average body type.