justbeingjen • 44

Open-hearted and ready to fall in love.

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#family

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Jakarta, Indonesia
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I'm here to meet guys 38 to 50 years old for dating, friendship and serious relationship.

About me

Hi, I am Jen. I'm a woman who's walked most of her life solo, and I've made peace with that, but I'm also hopeful that the right person might change that story. I haven't been in a relationship before, though not because I've been waiting around waiting. There were seasons when survival and responsibility came first, when I chose not to invite someone into that difficult chapter of my life. That wasn't about being picky in the way people sometimes mean it. Love wasn't something I avoided, it just wasn't something I forced. If the right man had appeared during those years, I would have been open.

Now I'm at a place where I genuinely hope to experience the blessing of a real relationship. I've been actively looking, though I'll be honest - it's not as straightforward as it might have been in my twenties. But I'm still hopeful, still searching, and I believe the right person is worth the wait.

My family is the foundation of who I am. I come from a big, beautifully imperfect family, we have our fights/arguments, but we treasure being together. Watching my siblings navigate relationships has given me a front-row seat to how love actually works. Family is important to me, and I want that for myself too: a family of my own someday, built with the right person.

Work keeps me grounded. I'm an admin at a school, and I'm good with people and with children (both from my big family and through my work). It's not a glamorous job, but it's meaningful to me, and it's honest work.

I go to church and it matters. My faith has been the thing that's steadied me through the messiness of life, and it's made me better. I'd like to meet someone who respects that, even if we don't see everything the same way.

When I'm not working or with family, you'll find me in the kitchen - cooking or baking is how I show love. There's something about feeding people you care about that feels like the realest kind of togetherness. I adore slow mornings (though my early work schedule makes them rare), and I've grown to treasure quieter evenings at home: good conversation, a book, a movie with the right person, time with family. But I'm also someone who stays active: through work, sports, learning, staying busy at home. I also believe in showing up.

I'm feminine and nurturing, caring and grounded and warm. Being single most of my life has also shaped me into someone independent and self-aware. I'm someone who can take care of herself, and I think that matters.

About you

What I believe about love: it's companionship, growth, and commitment. It's choosing each other, day after day. It's being known and accepted exactly as you are. It's also clear and honest, no guesswork, no games. I want a man who isn't afraid to show his feelings and to be direct about his heart.

I'm looking for a man who is kind. Someone who will let me into his world and who wants me in it. Someone who will love me and accept me with all of above.

I'm looking for a man who will show me how to love in a relationship, who will show me as we learn together. I want to discover this with someone, to grow into it with him. Ideally, someone in a similar life stage or up to ten years older - I want a partner, not a father figure or someone who feels like my younger siblings.

I honestly, truly want to fall in love. If that sounds like something worth exploring, I'd like to meet you.