Cebu City, Philippines [ show map ]
I'm here to meet girls 18 to 23 years old for serious relationship.
I have moved to the Philippines after visiting many times.
I intend to stay forever so I want a forever girl.
I am an English gentleman, so of course i need a lady, a girl who is never violent or threatens violence to herself or others and never lies, steals, cheats or is lazy. But also a modern lady in the sense that of course a lady would never look at another persons private things so now days that includes touching a person's phone or computer etc. It's not possible to build a relationship without trust. I would never offer money, because a lady is offended if she is offered money and if not then she is not a lady and I don't want to know her.
I hate pop music, television and computer games
I love classical music, books and sports.
Psychologist say that in a relationship you can never lie NEVER LIE and you must work for the good. If that does not happen you must end the relationship. I live like that as it is my character and I follow that advice in choosing and keeping a partner.
You can only be with a person who wants the best for you. Otherwise you have to walk away. I can not be with a girl who want's the best for herself or her family at my expense.
Concerning religion I can best be described as Christian Protestant Unitarian culturally Anglican Holophysicalist Perenialist.
As a child in school there was a common thing that kids would say if they were asked for something "ASK DON'T GET!" It means that you never give anything to a person who asks for it. Even school kids know that basic thing, the difference between good and bad people. A child can accept a gift as they are too young to work and take care of themselves but an adult must refuse a gift or it means they are admitting that they are too useless to work and take care of themself as though they are still a child. Adults do not accept things they work together with their partner to make things better for each other together and build a relationship.
In the Bible there is a passage about putting oil on Jesus feet. It was an expensive oil called spikanard from the Himalayan mountains. Used in the Roman Empire but very expensive. It can be used for spiritual purposes like incense.One of the disciples suggested selling it to give money to the poor but Jesus said the poor will always be here. I am here now. Few people can understand this. Jesus was saying that his psycho spiritual development may be aided by the oil and that is more important than giving to the poor. In life what is most important is our psycho spiritual development aiding that of our partner so we can have a good relationship and aiding that of other
let me tell you a secret about foreigners. When a girl says that she wants to help her family we know that the fact that the family accept money means that they are not psychologically adults. We do not want to help we think that family is dysfunctional, and we want to save the girl FROM her family, not help her help the family. we know it's too late and we have a difficult task to rescue her like you rescue someone from a crazy religion or cult.
Cute and honest girl, with no work (unless professional level), no kid, no school no bellbell, no Y chromosome, no tattoo, no begging family and no ex bar girl. For lifetime, loving relationship.
I don't mind slim or curvy but i hate fat as it shows no respect for herself, so none for others.
No one is perfect we all make mistakes and i believe in forgiveness of mistakes but that is different from bad character that is fixed and can not be forgiven. What I hate most is back stabbers and vindictive people. Most important of course is a good heart. Think about it. If a girl lies to me about anything even one time then I would never trust anything she said ever again. If she told me that she loved me I would not know if it was true. A relationship is about relating to each other if you lie you are not relating so it's not a relationship.
On poverty. Poor people are poor because they are happy go lucky, therefore they do not plan. I can not change them so I can not rescue them. A foreigner can not rescue your family from poverty. The most he can do is rescue you from your poor, dysfunctional family and then only if he is smart and you are not hard headed.
It is impossible to help your family or they would help themselves, the most you can do is support them. If you want to do that then then stay single get a job and give them money everyday until they die. The time a foreigner will support your family is short term to get what he wants, or long term if he is stupid and has no foreign friends to explain these things to him. If you really want to marry a stupid and antisocial man and have stupid antisocial kids then keep searching because it's not me. I need a girl who loves me for who I am. Not one who is with me because her useless parents want to use her to get money for them.
As for children they are precious and need to be loved and cared for. One way to care, is to save money for your child's health and education BEFORE having a family. Not to do so is child neglect, which to me is a form of child abuse, so if your parents have many children who they can not feed and educate, then to me they are child abusers and I would not want to meet them or help them in any way.
The fundamental difference between adults and children is that that adults have the psychological maturity to act responsibly and to take responsibility for their actions. if a person has a child without planning then they have not reached the psychological maturity to be parents, Another aspect of being and adult and taking responsibility for ones actions is not to rely on others for money or support. Consequently I do not lke people who ask fo money and one of the ways I test a person is to offer them money and if they accept I throw them out of my life. Also if I buy someone a meal and they are greedy, or try to take food away then I also throw them out of my life. As my Japanese friend says " I am not the government, I am not a charity."
Oh yes and i hate tattoos, body piercings and multiple ear piercings. Hmm and I especially hate people who say "I will do it later." if they don't.
I hope to find a girl who was top of her class or I will soon become bored. Brains and Beauty.
Tess of the d'Urbervilles, an English novel from 1891 caused much debate at the time in England. It is largely about a girl who conceals a pregnancy and baby, from a man who loved her. When he found out he lost respect for her. Perhaps the girl hoped that the man would love her and forgive her. However the British Public in the 1890s took the view that he had only fallen in love with the girl who she pretended to be, not with who she really was. It is evil to trick a person like that as they will only be in love with the person you pretend to be not who you are.
There are many wonderful people in the world, with different personalities and interests, and I am flexible about those things. However I need a girl with a good heart and good character