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Jakarta, Indonesia
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I'm here to meet guys 35 to 55 years old for dating, friendship, serious relationship and networking.
About me
Freelance translator by profession, English tutor by passion — basically, I get paid to play with words and occasionally fall in love with good conversations. I picked up a second Master’s from Cardiff University, so yes, I care about grammar… probably more than I should. Life, though? I try not to over-edit it — a little curiosity, a little chaos, a lot of heart.
I’ve come to understand something clearly: I am not “too much”—I am enough. If wanting attention and consistency feels like too much, then maybe I am… but I won’t apologize for needing the basics of a healthy connection.
Full disclosure: I can be a little moody, occasionally dramatic, and yes — slightly demanding. But that’s just the side effect of caring deeply. I love the same way: fully, loyally, and without playing games (unless it’s Scrabble, then I’m competitive).
After my seven-year relationship ended, I chose to trust again. I gave three different men a chance, and instead of meeting me with the same sincerity, they let their insecurities lead. They projected their fears onto me, convinced I would go back to my ex — as if that were even an option. He already destroyed his place in my life. What would I be returning to… a ghost?
In the end, it wasn’t me who walked away first — it was their insecurity that pushed me out. They were so afraid I would leave that they created exactly that outcome. And eventually, they did lose me.
As for me: I make my own money, pay my own bills, have my own place, and can take myself anywhere I want (and I do). My friends treat me well — flowers, lunches, the works — so the bar isn’t exactly on the floor. I’m not asking for much, just consistency. If you like me, you show up — not 24 hours later, not “when convenient.”
I’m here with a soft heart and zero rush. Let’s start with real conversations, easy laughter, and see if something genuine grows. I’ve mistaken attraction for love before — not making that typo again.
If you’re not adding value to my life, don’t apply for the position.
About you
If you’re kind, emotionally mature, and patient enough to build something real — not rushed, not forced — we’ll get along just fine. 💛
Quick note: if “I love you” shows up after a few days, I’m going to assume you mean “I love the idea of you.” Real feelings take time — and I’d rather be known properly than rushed into something that sounds romantic but means very little. 😅🙄
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5'6" (167cm) and big & beautiful.
