Manila, Philippines [ show map ]
I'm here to meet guys of any age for friendship.
My name is Maria, currently living in Israel for work as Caregiver. I've been working here for nearly 12yrs & counting (hope so). I'll go back home in the Philippines when my Visa or contract is done.
About myself, hmmmm....
I am an honest & optimistic person, I can laugh 😂even if sometimes I am sad😢, I'm caring & giving even if sometimes I am exhausted.
My motto is "Storm do not last forever, I never give up, I know that no matter what I always make it through!
Why is it so hard to find a true love & soulmate?
A “soulmate” is a term from romantic lore that describes a person you have encountered with whom you have a high and persistent level of compatibility. But if you think about this critically, it’s easy to see why finding a soulmate is so difficult.
First, you need to meet them. Considering that you can’t be everywhere at once (and you may not always be paying attention), you can miss them. Plus there’s the assumption that you’re in the same geographical area. If there’s really only one person out there for you, then given that there are over 500 square kilometres of land on earth, what are the odds that they are anywhere near you? Also, you actually don’t know who they are or where they might be, meaning that you’re essentially working blindly, searching for a person you can’t immediately recognise.
Secondly, they need to be compatible. As individuals, we are very complicated, and we also demand very complicated things. The chances that you would stumble across someone whose complicated nature seems to fit with your complicated nature, and who also thinks the same of you, are quite slim. There is an exorbitantly higher probability of a bad fit than a good one with every person you encounter.
Finally, people change. Humans are not constant in their nature, and a person who may have been perfect for you at an earlier stage of your life can grow into someone that doesn’t fit well at a latter stage. So for a person to really be your soulmate, it means that not only should you fit well at the beginning, you both should also develop in such a way that whomever they become in future would also fit with who you become in future.
Taking all these probabilities together, finding a soulmate is practically impossible. That is, if we’re going with the romantic belief that soulmates are ideal in all these ways. You’d have a much higher chance of being struck by lightning.
So let’s drop the idealism and get real.
The truth about “soulmates” is far less tricky. Soulmates are not perfect fits. Far from it. It’s not perfection that makes a soulmate perfect. It’s a mutual accommodation of differences, an understanding that the person you love may not always fit with all your expectations, or say the right things, or understand every single detail about who you are and what you want at any given moment. The strength of love between soulmates comes from a learned compatibility, not a pre-established one. That’s not to say there is no need for common ground or mutual interests. There is. But there is a much greater need for mutual respect, and a willingness to accept one another for who they are, not for who you’d like them to be.
If you want to find a real soulmate, you’re much better off looking for acceptance than perfection. True love doesn’t come because we’re perfect; it comes in spite of the fact that we’re not!